I have come across this article by Rosemary Collins on The Establishment, which is well worth a read. It shares many insights on going undiagnosed as a child with Autism; one sentence stood out to me above all:
“I told him some things I can now recognize as outright lies: that a girl I barely spoke to was my best friend; that I “loved” Brownies, when in fact I found each meeting exhausting and overwhelming. Even at that young age I had learned to say these things, because they made adults happier than the truth did.”
As a girl on the Spectrum, how many of us repeated what we thought we were supposed to say? We didn’t believe these things, we just said them because everyone else said them; this was our culture. What is it about girls, and the boys that share our unique ASD characteristics (yes – they exist!), that makes us feel like we have to dissolve our individuality into the crowd?
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